Those six beautiful words were uttered to me last week by my even more beautiful girlfriend in a moment of such beautiful beauty it has inspired me to write this bumbling article and reflect on the importance of compromise, sacrifice and shared interest in a meaningful relationship. Why? Because I’m in that sit-com sap track kind of mood, that’s why.
I can’t pretend to be any sort of authority on relationships or how they can be successful. I have my thoughts and my experiences but all I can really attest to is what works for me. I’m not daft enough to believe that there is some all-encompassing doctrine or methodology to follow in order to be in love and stay in love. Life doesn’t work that way.
I have to make that statement even if it flies in the face of why I’m trying to get people to come here and read my articles. I have to let it be up to you whether or not to heed my advice (although it feels patronizing to even say that). Read and be entertained; and when you leave hopefully you’re day is a smidge brighter than when you arrived. Maybe I should be giving myself a bit more credit, but I have this tendency to undermine my own arguments in a fleeting attempt to be self-deprecating. I’ll work on it.
Let’s get back to Top Gun, shall we?
I don’t need Tom Cruise to suit up in ass-hugging jean short cut-offs to tell you that Top Gun is at the top of the pyramid when it comes to boner-inducing dude movies. It’s up there with Terminator 2, The Rock, and any other feature films starring Nic Cage and/or Sean Connery. There is no greater moment in a man’s love life than when this perfect storm of events occur: 1. Your girl agrees, nay requests, to watch one of said movies, and 2. Your girl has never seen said movie before. Fire up the hype train because she ain’t getting off until Kenny Loggins has breathed his last heavenly note.
It’s also in these moments where we feel a heightened closeness to our significant other because we realize that she’s taken a step, however apprehensively, into our world. She has clearly never had the urge, or perhaps the will, to watch Top Gun in the past, but she’s willing to walk that road with you because she’s decided she wants a piece of that world, maybe even the whole thing.
It’s a offering – a signal that we should be taking and reciprocating. These little moments must be consistently peppered through the life of a relationship in order for it to thrive. I wouldn’t dare suggest that a couple should like all the same things or even attempt to. In fact, I think having individual interests can be just as vital as sharing them. What I’m really trying to say is make the effort. Not just once or twice until she’s secured tightly in your grasp, but forever until you no longer have the chance to do so.
The best part is when you try something new and walk away with an experience you really enjoyed and wouldn’t have had the opportunity to do if it weren’t for her, or him. I have to admit that I was smiling like the Grinch when I looked over and she was crying hysterically after Goose died (spoiler alert). She was engaged. She was in my world and she was loving every testosterone-soaked moment of it.
And I couldn’t have been happier.